![]() ![]() ![]() Give the $300 with gratitude and love and don’t even consider not attending the reception! This milestone in your son’s life needs to be met with support from you, not support for you. Here you are facing issues of compassion, respect, and gratitude. Financial arrangements can vary from one wedding to the next depending on a number of circumstances. Do the right thing and stop pouring negative energy into a process which is dividing a family. I always encourage people who become embroiled in this sort of unpleasantness to always take the high road. If you could have afforded to host a catered reception at one point in time, why is $300 all of the sudden an issue? The intentions and motivations swarming throughout family dynamics can bring out the worst in people. Jay Remer, The Etiquette Guy, International Protocol and Corporate & Social Etiquette ![]() I’d hope that no son would ever want his mother to get into a financial hardship over a wedding. if you really can’t afford this, please let your son know. Honestly, I don’t see how $300 helps with a $10K wedding, and I think it’s a bit petty (after all, you’re invited guests!), but if you’re okay with offering that amount, and you really want to attend and keep the peace, then I’d agree. It’s nice if parent’s can help, but it’s also nice to have children who appreciate whatever help is offered. Parents aren’t obligated to give their children a wedding and are not obligated to offer to help in any way. What is my obligation here? As it stands, I told my son that if it created a financial difficult for us to attend the reception that we would not attend. Furthermore, I thought it was customary to include in the planning those people that you expected to assist financially. Our finances are tight, due largely in part to the financial strain of not being able to work full time while caring for my mom. The following day my son telephoned and told me that his fiance’s family had already spent $10,000 on the wedding and reception, that his father had contributed $300 and that he wanted to know if I could do so as well, as it would “make a way” for us to attend the reception. My son and his fiance came to our home and apologized for what happened, and told us they would like to have both of us (and my 2 stepchildren) at their wedding. I have not been involved in any of the planning or decisions. Prior to our estrangement my husband (his stepfather) and I offered to host a wedding reception in our home and to cater it, but they declined our offer, as our home did not meet their desires for a venue, and said that instead they wanted financial help with a honeymoon.Īs a result of our disagreement, my husband and I were disinvited from the wedding, until just this past weekend. Our relationship has been a bit strained since we had a disagreement at a time when my mother (his grandmother) was in hospice care and dying from a brain tumor I was the only child and sole caregiver, and obviously this was a very difficult and stressful time for me. Is The Groom’s Family Obligated To Contribute To Wedding Expenses? ![]()
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